It’s a very painful fear which often makes me feel that it would be easier, and less painful to just be left alone. To not let anybody else see or experience my strong feelings, or more correctly - the expressions of them. I have learned to withdraw when this tsunami of feelings comes crashing over me. Like it is wrong to have them. But trying to run away from myself has not been very successful.
When looking in the rear mirror on my life, I kind of understand where this fear comes from. As long as I didn’t make any fuss about anything - I was good. But when and if I did - I was not worthy. Worthy of their time, worthy of their love. Just a shell of a human trying to figure life out. Feeling alone and like an alien trapped in my own body. Trying to appear calm and collected, but screaming inside.
This is something that I still struggle with, more or less, everyday. Trying to convince myself that I AM worthy. That I DO deserve love even if I’m not always calm and collected. And even if I sometimes happen to express strong feelings like I’m a kid trapped in a grown ups body.
This is my inner child stepping forward and trying to figure shit out. The inner child that just wanted to be seen and heard. To be loved - for who she was.
It’s time for me to be the grown up and tell my inner child that everything is going to be alright. To show her the love that she deserves. To set the boundaries that she was not able to. She only struggled to survive. She did what she could at that time.
It’s okay.
She is okay.
She is me.
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